Together Mode: For Parents Who Want Peace

You both want what’s best for your kids. But let’s be honest—getting there isn’t always easy.
Maybe you read each other’s tone wrong.
Maybe the past keeps showing up in your messages.
Maybe good intentions still spiral into conflict.

That’s exactly why Together Mode exists.
It’s for co-parents who want peace, who care about their kids, and also who sometimes struggle to communicate calmly—especially when emotions are running high. Together Mode brings structure, AI support, and shared clarity into your communication, so co-parenting can feel less like a battle and more like a partnership.

Together Mode means you’ll both be on the same page and able to put your kids first, regardless of the situation.

What Is Together Mode?

Together Mode is a shared messaging space inside the BestInterest app where both co-parents communicate in a calm, AI-moderated environment. Every message—both incoming and outgoing—is reviewed by our AI engine to filter out inflammatory tone, reduce misunderstandings, and keep things child-focused.

It’s not magic. But it’s the next best thing: a communication space designed to protect your peace and your parenting.

What You Share (and What You Don’t)

Together mode was built with privacy in mind, from the ground up. YOU own your data, not your coparent. Here’s how Together Mode works, in plain terms:

✅ Shared Between Co-Parents

• Messages – Every message you send is visible to your co-parent (and vice versa). Both parties retain their own full record.
• Images – Photos and attachments shared via chat are also shared between both parents.
• AI Review – Before you send a message, it is reviewed for clarity and child-focus, coaching you towards a better way to get your point across (and protecting you in court if it comes to that). YOU are in control and can always take or leave any advice the AI coach gives you.
• AI Moderation – Before messages are delivered to each parent, our system screens them for emotionally charged or aggressive language—and filters it out. So even if your coparent bypasses the AI Review feature and “sends it anyway” you are protected.
• Urgent Message Detection – Emergencies or urgent topics are automatically flagged to ensure they don’t get lost or delayed.
• Messages are retained – You or your coparent has the right to delete your data at any time. However, if you do not delete your account, messages shared with you are retained for record-keeping purposes.

🚫 Not Shared Between Co-Parents

• Coparent Coach – Your private AI support system. It helps you draft messages, reframe tone, and preview how your words might be received—but your co-parent never sees it.
• Journal Entries – Anything you log privately inside the Coparenting Journal stays private and will not be shared.
• Drafts & Deleted Messages – Only sent messages are shared. What you don’t send stays with you.

How Together Mode Supports Peaceful Co-Parenting

1. AI Moderation Helps You Stay Calm
   You don’t have to police your words—or theirs. AI does it for you, reducing the risk of things spiraling.
2. Neutral Space for Necessary Conversations
   You can talk about custody exchanges, school events, or upcoming decisions without veering into blame or old wounds.
3. Each Parent Has a Full, Unalterable Record
   Messages can’t be edited or deleted after the fact—providing clarity, accountability, and legal peace of mind.
4. Message Coaching Supports Healthier Habits
   Coparent Coach helps you phrase things in a way that reflects your values, not just your frustration.

Who Together Mode Is For

• Coparents who sometimes struggle to stay calm—but genuinely want to keep things focused on their kids.
• Coparents who are early in their divorce journey and sometimes have a difficult time staying child-focused.
• Families navigating shared custody or parenting time who want communication to feel less chaotic and more respectful.
• Parents who have some willingness to collaborate, even if things are tense or emotionally complicated.
• Coparents seeking structure and accountability in their communication to support court orders, therapy, or conflict reduction.
• Parents desiring more security and privacy in their communication. All messages sent in Together Mode stay within our secure network and are never sent over SMS.

You don’t have to be best friends. You just have to be willing.

Who It’s Not For

• Parents in total no-contact situations due to domestic violence or legal orders—Solo Mode may be safer.
• Co-parents who refuse to participate in any shared system—in that case, Solo Mode allows you to use BestInterest even if they won’t.

How to enable Together Mode

• Download the BestInterest app
• During setup, choose Together Mode. Or, if you’ve already set up the app, go to More > Coparent Connection and tap “Together Mode”
• Send your coparent your invite code
• They enter your invite code during setup or by going to More > Coparent Connection.
• Your accounts are now linked and all communication will go through our secure network.

What If My Co-Parent Can’t Afford the App?

BestInterest offers a Family Subscription Plan—so if your co-parent wants to use the app but cost is an issue, you can cover both subscriptions. It’s a small investment that can prevent huge emotional and financial costs down the line.

When both parents use Together Mode, conflict goes down, communication improves, and everyone—especially your kids—benefits.

Coparenting is tough

You’ve each found yourselves in one of the most difficult, high-stakes relationships a human can have. We all make mistakes sometimes, but if the intention is there to reduce conflict – BestInterest’s Together Mode is there to support you with that intention.

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