Becoming Your Best Self: Transforming the Co-Parenting Experience

At BestInterest, we know how overwhelming divorce can be—especially when you’re trying to parent through emotional upheaval, legal stress, and constant uncertainty. That’s why we’re proud to share this guest post from Kimberly Lorah, a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and Certified Divorce Coach®, who brings both professional expertise and personal experience to the families she supports.

Through her practice, Blossom Coaching, Kimberly helps people impacted by divorce move from emotional survival to true self-rediscovery. She offers non-judgmental support for clients at all stages—whether they’re finalizing a divorce decree, adjusting to post-divorce life, or navigating the difficult emotions that come with co-parenting after a painful divorce. Her focus is on helping people develop the clarity needed to make the best decisions for themselves and their children.

Kimberly frequently recommends BestInterest as a co-parenting tool for her clients, especially those dealing with conflict or overwhelm. She understands how powerful it can be to filter out emotional chaos and move forward with clarity.

This piece reflects Kimberly’s deeply held belief: that healing is possible, and that by rediscovering your Best Self, you can build a life—and a parenting relationship—rooted in truth, resilience, and peace.

Becoming Your Best Self: Transforming the Co-Parenting Experience

Divorce changes everything—your routine, roles, relationships, and sense of self. It doesn’t just mark the end of a marriage; it can disrupt your identity, purpose, and direction.

You may find yourself asking:

• Who am I now?
• What matters most to me?
• How do I show up for my kids while I’m still healing?

These questions can feel overwhelming, but they also provide the opportunity to rediscover your Best Self for authentic, values-aligned parenting that supports both your healing and your children’s growth.

What Is Your “Best Self” in Co-Parenting?

Your Best Self isn’t about being perfect. It’s not the self that pretends everything is fine, the people-pleasing self, or the self who puts others first. Your Best Self is the authentic you, the version rooted in truth, purpose, and strength.

Your Best Self is:

• Emotionally aware and self-reflective
• Guided by values like integrity, peace, and resilience
• Courageous, honest, and intentional
• Able to respond rather than react

When you lead from this foundation, your co-parenting becomes more peaceful, purposeful, and aligned. Your children feel emotionally safe, seen, and supported.

Why Rediscovering Your Best Self Matters in Co-Parenting

When we parent from pain, fear, or resentment, we react instead of respond. We speak from wounds, not wisdom. This unintentionally passes emotional pain down to our children.

But when we lead from clarity, confidence, and compassion, we:

• Regulate our emotional triggers
• Improve communication with our co-parent
• Make decisions grounded in what’s best for our kids
• Model healthy emotional resilience

You can’t show up for your children if you’re disconnected from yourself.

How to Rediscover Your Best Self After Divorce

Your Best Self will not appear as a one-time breakthrough—it’s about daily, intentional choices. Healing and rediscovery are ongoing journeys that begin with small, courageous steps.

1. Pause and Reflect

Create quiet moments to reconnect with your inner world.
Ask yourself:

• What parts of me have I silenced?
• When do I feel most like myself?
• What brings me peace, purpose, or joy?

Use tools like journaling, meditation, or working with a therapist or divorce coach to gain insight and emotional clarity.

2. Reconnect with Your Core Values

Divorce often shifts your priorities and perspectives. That’s okay. Ask:

• What values will guide me as an individual?
• How do I want to show up as a parent?
• What kind of life do I want to build?

Let your values guide your decisions, boundaries, and parenting style.

3. Release What No Longer Serves You

Let go of guilt, shame, perfectionism, and outdated identities.
It’s okay to grieve—and it’s also okay to grow. Healing means releasing the emotional weight of the past to create space for who you’re becoming.

4. Set Healthy Boundaries Rooted in Truth

Boundaries protect your peace and your emotional availability for your children.

• Communicate your limits calmly and clearly
• Focus on child-centered decisions, not ego-driven battles
• Remember: boundaries aren’t walls—they are clarity in action

5. Take Intentional, Aligned Action

Living as your Best Self means taking daily steps to honor who you are becoming and making small, conscious choices that reflect your healing.

• Say no to drama, reactivity, and old patterns
• Say yes to growth, peace, and your own well-being
• Create daily habits that support emotional clarity and grounded parenting

6. Prioritize Your Healing

Rediscovery is healing. When you invest in your emotional well-being:

• You break generational cycles
• You support your child’s emotional development
• You increase your confidence and clarity as a parent

Healing parents raise healing children.

Emotional Clarity Leads to Confident Co-Parenting

Divorce is 95% emotional. Your ability to co-parent effectively starts with emotional regulation.

Regularly ask yourself:

• What am I truly feeling?
• What do I need right now?
• What result am I hoping for?
• What version of me is showing up?
• What outcome aligns with the kind of parent I want to be?

From this place of self-awareness, you can respond with wisdom instead of reacting from pain and teach your children to do the same.

Thriving, Not Just Surviving: The Power of Authentic Parenting

Rediscovering your Best Self is the bridge between surviving divorce and thriving beyond it. It’s how you reclaim your voice, your peace, and your future.

Thriving means:

• Making decisions with intention
• Modeling resilience instead of resentment
• Living in alignment with your truth
• Creating a life that feels authentic, not performative

When your children witness your healing journey, they learn:

• Hard times are not the end of the story
• Resilience is possible
• Authenticity is strength

Final Thoughts: Keep Showing Up

You don’t need to be perfect. You don’t need to have all the answers. But you do need to show up—with courage, honesty, and self-compassion.

Rediscovering your Best Self is one of the most powerful and loving things you can do for your children and for yourself. Every small, brave step you take toward healing creates a ripple of peace, clarity, and connection that lasts for generations.

Why We Trust Kimberly Lorah and Blossom Coaching

As Kimberly Lorah so powerfully reminds us, rediscovering your Best Self is one of the most meaningful ways to heal after divorce—and to create a peaceful, emotionally grounded environment for your children. At BestInterest, we’ve seen firsthand how important it is for parents to have both practical tools and emotional clarity when navigating co-parenting after a separation.

Whether someone is finalizing a divorce decree, moving through post-divorce life, or simply managing the range of emotions and dealing with uncertainty, Kimberly’s approach through Blossom Coaching helps people impacted by divorce develop the clarity and courage they need to make the best decisions for their future. Her unique combination of experience as a licensed counselor and certified divorce coach® allows her to meet clients where they are and guide them toward healing with compassion and structure.

She specializes in helping individuals overcome the chaos, regain confidence, and transition into post-divorce life with clarity and intention. Her divorce support and recovery group programs, individual coaching, and mental health counseling practice are all grounded in her commitment to provide non-judgmental support for everyone impacted by divorce.

That’s why we’re proud to recommend Kimberly to members of the BestInterest community—and why so many of her clients use BestInterest to help maintain peace, filter conflict, and move forward from a difficult road into a more grounded future.

To learn more about Kimberly Lorah, her Blossom divorce support and recovery services, or to schedule a complimentary consultation, visit kimberlylorahcoaching.com.

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